Hadith Representative
Kisah 11 wanita berjanji tidak menyembunyikan sifat suami masing-masing, Nabi bersabda kepada Aisyah: terhadapmu aku seperti Abu zar'in terhadap Ummu zar'in
Imam Muslim : 4481حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ حُجْرٍ السَّعْدِيُّ وَأَحْمَدُ بْنُ جَنَابٍ كِلَاهُمَا عَنْ عِيسَى وَاللَّفْظُ لِابْنِ حُجْرٍ حَدَّثَنَا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ أَخِيهِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ جَلَسَ إِحْدَى عَشْرَةَ امْرَأَةً فَتَعَاهَدْنَ وَتَعَاقَدْنَ أَنْ لَا يَكْتُمْنَ مِنْ أَخْبَارِ أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ شَيْئًا قَالَتْ الْأُولَى زَوْجِي لَحْمُ جَمَلٍ غَثٍّ عَلَى رَأْسِ جَبَلٍ وَعْرٍ لَا سَهْلٌ فَيُرْتَقَى وَلَا سَمِينٌ فَيُنْتَقَلَ قَالَتْ الثَّانِيَةُ زَوْجِي لَا أَبُثُّ خَبَرَهُ إِنِّي أَخَافُ أَنْ لَا أَذَرَهُ إِنْ أَذْكُرْهُ أَذْكُرْ عُجَرَهُ وَبُجَرَهُ قَالَتْ الثَّالِثَةُ زَوْجِي الْعَشَنَّقُ إِنْ أَنْطِقْ أُطَلَّقْ وَإِنْ أَسْكُتْ أُعَلَّقْ قَالَتْ الرَّابِعَةُ زَوْجِي كَلَيْلِ تِهَامَةَ لَا حَرَّ وَلَا قُرَّ وَلَا مَخَافَةَ وَلَا سَآمَةَ قَالَتْ الْخَامِسَةُ زَوْجِي إِنْ دَخَلَ فَهِدَ وَإِنْ خَرَجَ أَسِدَ وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَمَّا عَهِدَ قَالَتْ السَّادِسَةُ زَوْجِي إِنْ أَكَلَ لَفَّ وَإِنْ شَرِبَ اشْتَفَّ وَإِنْ اضْطَجَعَ الْتَفَّ وَلَا يُولِجُ الْكَفَّ لِيَعْلَمَ الْبَثَّ قَالَتْ السَّابِعَةُ زَوْجِي غَيَايَاءُ أَوْ عَيَايَاءُ طَبَاقَاءُ كُلُّ دَاءٍ لَهُ دَاءٌ شَجَّكِ أَوْ فَلَّكِ أَوْ جَمَعَ كُلًّا لَكِ قَالَتْ الثَّامِنَةُ زَوْجِي الرِّيحُ رِيحُ زَرْنَبٍ وَالْمَسُّ مَسُّ أَرْنَبٍ قَالَتْ التَّاسِعَةُ زَوْجِي رَفِيعُ الْعِمَادِ طَوِيلُ النِّجَادِ عَظِيمُ الرَّمَادِ قَرِيبُ الْبَيْتِ مِنْ النَّادِي قَالَتْ الْعَاشِرَةُ زَوْجِي مَالِكٌ وَمَا مَالِكٌ مَالِكٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ ذَلِكَ لَهُ إِبِلٌ كَثِيرَاتُ الْمَبَارِكِ قَلِيلَاتُ الْمَسَارِحِ إِذَا سَمِعْنَ صَوْتَ الْمِزْهَرِ أَيْقَنَّ أَنَّهُنَّ هَوَالِكُ قَالَتْ الْحَادِيَةَ عَشْرَةَ زَوْجِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ فَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ أَنَاسَ مِنْ حُلِيٍّ أُذُنَيَّ وَمَلَأَ مِنْ شَحْمٍ عَضُدَيَّ وَبَجَّحَنِي فَبَجَحَتْ إِلَيَّ نَفْسِي وَجَدَنِي فِي أَهْلِ غُنَيْمَةٍ بِشِقٍّ فَجَعَلَنِي فِي أَهْلِ صَهِيلٍ وَأَطِيطٍ وَدَائِسٍ وَمُنَقٍّ فَعِنْدَهُ أَقُولُ فَلَا أُقَبَّحُ وَأَرْقُدُ فَأَتَصَبَّحُ وَأَشْرَبُ فَأَتَقَنَّحُ أُمُّ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا أُمُّ أَبِي زَرْعٍ عُكُومُهَا رَدَاحٌ وَبَيْتُهَا فَسَاحٌ ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ مَضْجَعُهُ كَمَسَلِّ شَطْبَةٍ وَيُشْبِعُهُ ذِرَاعُ الْجَفْرَةِ بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ طَوْعُ أَبِيهَا وَطَوْعُ أُمِّهَا وَمِلْءُ كِسَائِهَا وَغَيْظُ جَارَتِهَا جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ لَا تَبُثُّ حَدِيثَنَا تَبْثِيثًا وَلَا تُنَقِّثُ مِيرَتَنَا تَنْقِيثًا وَلَا تَمْلَأُ بَيْتَنَا تَعْشِيشًا قَالَتْ خَرَجَ أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَالْأَوْطَابُ تُمْخَضُ فَلَقِيَ امْرَأَةً مَعَهَا وَلَدَانِ لَهَا كَالْفَهْدَيْنِ يَلْعَبَانِ مِنْ تَحْتِ خَصْرِهَا بِرُمَّانَتَيْنِ فَطَلَّقَنِي وَنَكَحَهَا فَنَكَحْتُ بَعْدَهُ رَجُلًا سَرِيًّا رَكِبَ شَرِيًّا وَأَخَذَ خَطِّيًّا وَأَرَاحَ عَلَيَّ نَعَمًا ثَرِيًّا وَأَعْطَانِي مِنْ كُلِّ رَائِحَةٍ زَوْجًا قَالَ كُلِي أُمَّ زَرْعٍ وَمِيرِي أَهْلَكِ فَلَوْ جَمَعْتُ كُلَّ شَيْءٍ أَعْطَانِي مَا بَلَغَ أَصْغَرَ آنِيَةِ أَبِي زَرْعٍ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ و حَدَّثَنِيهِ الْحَسَنُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الْحُلْوَانِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَعِيلَ حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ بِهَذَا الْإِسْنَادِ غَيْرَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ عَيَايَاءُ طَبَاقَاءُ وَلَمْ يَشُكَّ وَقَالَ قَلِيلَاتُ الْمَسَارِحِ وَقَالَ وَصِفْرُ رِدَائِهَا وَخَيْرُ نِسَائِهَا وَعَقْرُ جَارَتِهَا وَقَالَ وَلَا تَنْقُثُ مِيرَتَنَا تَنْقِيثًا وَقَالَ وَأَعْطَانِي مِنْ كُلِّ ذَابِحَةٍ زَوْجًا
Narrated to us by Ali bin Hujr As Sa'di and Ahmad bin Janab, both from Isa, with the wording belonging to Ibn Hujr Narrated to us by Isa bin Yunus Narrated to us by Hisyam bin Urwah from his brother Abdullah bin Urwah from Urwah from Aisyah, she said, 'Eleven women were sitting together, promising not to conceal anything about their husbands. The first said, My husband is like lean camel meat on an uneven mountain peak, neither flat to climb nor fat to move. The second said, My husband, I won’t describe him, fearing I’d leave him if I did, I’d reveal his flaws and secrets. The third said, My husband is arrogant if I speak, I fear divorce if I stay silent, he ignores me. The fourth said, My husband is like a Tihamah night, neither hot nor cold, neither frightening nor dull. The fifth said, My husband is like a leopard at home, a lion outside he never questions what’s in the house. The sixth said, My husband eats greedily, drinks everything, sleeps turned away, not touching to know my sorrow. The seventh said, My husband is impotent, foolish, with every flaw, injuring my head or body, or both. The eighth said, My husband’s touch is like a rabbit’s, his scent like a fragrant tree. The ninth said, My husband has tall pillars, a long sword, noble ashes, and a house near gatherings, generous and kind. The tenth said, My husband is Malik, what is Malik? Better than his name, with many camels kept in pens, rarely grazing when hearing wood clatter, they know slaughter awaits. The eleventh said, My husband is Abu Zara’ what of Abu Zara’? He adorned my ears with jewelry, filled my arms with flesh, delighted me, making me happy. He found me among a poor shepherd family, then brought me to a family with horses, camels, oxen, and fields. I speak without insult, sleep until dawn, drink my fill. Abu Zara’s mother, what of her? Her dining place is grand, her house spacious. Abu Zara’s son, what of him? His bed is soft palm fiber, satisfied with lamb foreleg meat. Abu Zara’s daughter, what of her? Obedient to her parents, her clothes tight, stirring her husband’s jealousy. Abu Zara’s servant, what of her? She doesn’t spread our talks, isn’t dishonest with food, nor dirties our home. The eleventh continued, Once, Abu Zara’ traveled during a plentiful season, met a woman with two children like leopards, playing with pomegranates below her waist. He divorced me and married her. I then married a noble man, a valiant rider with a Khaththi staff, herding many livestock to me at dusk, giving me pairs of each, saying, Eat, O Ummu Zara’, and share with your family. Yet, all he gave wouldn’t fill Abu Zara’s smallest vessel. Aisyah said, Then the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said to me, I am to you like Abu Zara’ to Ummu Zara’.'